Two years ago, Anthony and I shared our "I do's." It was a Saturday afternoon, a hot afternoon, getting married in June was probably not the best idea in the world, but we did it. We both promised our love and loyalty to each other and promised to honor God through it all. We vowed to love each other in sickness and in health, richness and poorness, and to always have each others backs. We made these vows in front of our closest and dearest friends; it is a day that I will never forget.
When Anthony and I met in early 2007, we were both broken and lost emotionally, but mostly spiritually. We were both trying so hard to be people that we were not and we were both extremely broken. We each had so many wounds that were not healed when we started dating, but slowly we have healed each other. It hasn't been an easy ride. The first year and a half of our relationship was a battle field and neither one of us would surrender. Anthony had anger issues and I was just plain bitter. In my bitterness I would push Anthony to extreme anger and in his anger he would bring out the bitterness in me. Somehow we managed to make it. Anthony overcame his anger, a complete 180 degree and well, I can still be a little bitter at times, but I have also changed a great deal.
In May 2009 we got engaged and then married in 2010. When I married Anthony, he was a completely different man than when I met him and today Anthony is completely different man than the man he was when I married him. Allowing him into my life and allowing him to love me was the best decision I ever made.
Anthony has changed like the sky changes from night to day....with the same beauty and grace too. He is a man filled with love, compassion, endless amount of grace and mercy, charisma, drive, strength, and joy. He loves doing things for others, always puts other peoples needs before his own, especially mine. He is selfless as ever and he has become this man of God that I completely adore. Yesterday was rough day for him, but the way he reacted to it was incredible. He was not angry and he wasn't even filled with doubt, instead he prayed and laid it all in front of God. I then realized how much he has grown and how much of a man he has become. I am so proud to be his wife.
My life without Anthony would be dark because he has helped me walk closer to the light. He helps me to see the beauty in everything. His ability to lean on God in good and bad times inspire me to be a better woman. His grace as a husband is appreciated because I am by no means perfect. He encourages me with Godly words and prays for me and for our future family. He is my doctor when I am not feeling well, my counselor when I am stressed, my back rubber when I have cramps, my tear wiper when I cry, my stand up comedy guy when I need a laugh, my act silly because I can act 5, my rock when I am weak, my lyric police when I don't know the words, my grammar teacher when I can't speak (haha), he is my number one cheerleader when I need support, he is my everything I could dream of and more.
Anthony, I love you. These two years of marriage have been the best in my life. You are a wonderful husband and I know you will be a wonderful dad. Happy Anniversary.
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
How did you guys over come the bitterness. I feel that marcus changed after his mother became ill and worst after she passed. That was about 4 years ago. I wish he would be happier about life. As well as our relationship. Ever since she passed he has not gone to church. And I dont go cause he doesn't.
ReplyDeleteHey girl, It requires lots of patience and the desire to change. If one of you doesn't want to change it will take a toll on the relationship. I definitely think you guys should start going to church that was a huge part in us changing as much. Hope all is well.
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